during and after!

By Tyler's Mom on Mar 23, 2009

yes…. i’ve tried kicking my hubby out, 3 times… he just won’t leave, and he is too big for me to pick him up and throw him

*add*
you need to go out and buy a father to be book. READ it. call her, email her, or text about what you’ve learned. TRUST ME, this will help you. you need to understand what she needs and wants. by learning what she is going through mentally, physically and emotionally, will bring you two closer together! i try telling my hubby this, but he doesn’t understand and that’s why i can’t stand him…. i bought him “dad’s pregnant too” by harlen cohen. it’s a good book because i was the one who ended up reading it. GOOD LUCK!

By Acelin Gwen arriving Feb '09 on Mar 26, 2009

Call her and talk to her and try to be as understanding as possible being pregnant is not easy and IS VERY EMOTIONAL! Our bodies change and lots of other things good luck just keep in mind she is hormonal…

By mommy2one1ontheway on Mar 28, 2009

it happens a lot. it will go away.

By perdiii on Mar 29, 2009

Oh, this is rough. Sorry.
Life feels a lot better and much more hopeful during the 2nd trimester, but I think there’s something more going on here. Give her a little space and keep offering your support and try and arrange to have a nice talk together.
Good luck!

By cameronscami on Mar 31, 2009

Sometimes relationship issues that existed before the woman became pregnant can become bigger and more important during a pregnancy. This is because when a woman is pregnant she feels very protective of herself and her baby, she feels like she only wants to be with someone who can guarantee to make her feel safe, loved and protected at all times. This is not just hormonal, this is logical as it is in her and her baby’s interests to be with a partner who will be with them for the long haul.

It sounds a little like you are trying to see this issue as being the fault of hormones, but I think you are looking in the wrong place. From what you have said it seems to me that pre-existing issues have become more apparent because of the current stress and excitement of being pregnant. Perhaps she is losing her patience and tolerance because now there is no turning back - she is pregnant and has to be very responsible.

I sincerely hope that you have not given her the impression that her difficult moods are purely down to her and her being pregnant. You must take some responsibility for your part in the arguments and interactions you have with her - regardless of whether you believe these issues have become more apparent because of the pregnancy hormones.

I hope this makes sense. Please tell your woman how much you care about her and your unborn child. Please don’t blame her behaviour on her pregnancy. Make her feel safe, understood and cherished. If she won’t talk to you, write her a letter.

Good luck.

By megnog on Apr 1, 2009

She’s scared, that’s why she’s behaving like this.

She’s carrying a child and with that brings huge responsibility. She also thinks you don’t love her and that’s going to make her even more unsettled at this very delicate time. She thinks she’s on her own and unloved with a baby on the way - I’m not saying that she’s right, I’m just saying that’s how she feels.

I don’t know what caused the split… was it that you were a reluctant father at first? We all have our doubts and that’s perfectly natural. But what she needs is for you to reassure her that it’s all going to be ok.

All you can do is be patient with her; keep reassuring her how much you DO love her, how excited you are to be a dad and raise this family together. Don’t get impatient with her… just keep letting her know you love her and want to be with her, not out of duty to the baby, but because you love her!

Good luck xx

By Rosiepop on Apr 2, 2009

Depending on what set her off, it is probably just the hormones - especially if she was a quick temper beforehand. I would suggest you try to contact her, maybe by letter, and tell her that you still love her and the baby and you would love her even if the baby wasn’t on the way. Tell her you miss her, but understand if she needs a little space, and would really appreciate if she would let you back into her life so she doesn’t have to go through this time alone. Also, if whatever set her off was an action of yours, no matter how small or stupid, APOLOGIZE. It can mean the world of difference to a pregnant woman.
Good luck and hang in there. she’s lucky to have someone like you to love her.

By luvinlife on Apr 2, 2009

yes she can stay that way until she not any more and soon things should chill down

By meagan d on Apr 5, 2009